Life should be lived intensely and without regret.
But sometimes that makes it hard to recover.
But sometimes that makes it hard to recover.
Wednesday, June 24, 2009
Monday, June 15, 2009
Misunderstanding and Miscommunication
The gap between the way one person expresses him/herself and how the other perceives it.
I was focused on what I did not see.
If I did not see it or experience it in the form I expected, it did not exist.
I did not realize it was there right before my eyes all along...
Until I heard it, or rather saw it written in black and white.
If I did not see it or experience it in the form I expected, it did not exist.
I did not realize it was there right before my eyes all along...
Until I heard it, or rather saw it written in black and white.
With so many things in life I just go with the flow and follow my intuition. But, at the same time, I also know how to make things happen. I like making things happen- this is what inspires and empowers me.
But lately I've been struggling with my feelings and what it would take to make a certain situation work. Maybe it's time to stop working so hard to make it happen, and to let it go.
But lately I've been struggling with my feelings and what it would take to make a certain situation work. Maybe it's time to stop working so hard to make it happen, and to let it go.
Saturday, June 06, 2009
Tuesday, June 02, 2009
When we find what we are passionate about in life, it may consume us, we may become consumed by it, but there's a fine line to tread- we've got to keep things in check- so that it does not become what we are defined by, what solely defines us, or stops us from living life.
Tuesday, May 05, 2009
It's always nice to be noticed for one's beauty, especially at the most unsuspecting times... like tonight as I walked out of the subway casually dressed, with no makeup on, bundled up in a thick sweater jacket, in my rubber rain boots. I turned as I heard someone say "Sweetie, you're gorgeous"- in a simple sincere way. I smiled and told him that he just made my day.
Just as much as that made me feel good, I also realize that it is what it is. A passing acknowledgment... for what? I relish these moments, but also know that one day I will "loose my looks", age and such sweet comments will become less and less frequent. But what value is there really in them? I'd rather be admired for my accomplishments, achievements or contributions.
I try not to take it too seriously, or let it go to my head.
Just as much as that made me feel good, I also realize that it is what it is. A passing acknowledgment... for what? I relish these moments, but also know that one day I will "loose my looks", age and such sweet comments will become less and less frequent. But what value is there really in them? I'd rather be admired for my accomplishments, achievements or contributions.
I try not to take it too seriously, or let it go to my head.
Wednesday, April 08, 2009
What am I waiting for?
That one true thing
enduring
real
inescapable
something worth fighting for
perfect in its imperfection
enduring
real
inescapable
something worth fighting for
perfect in its imperfection
Saturday, April 04, 2009
Second chances?
Do we get second chances at love?
As a love optimist I want to believe that this is possible. That as they say, there will be a second chance for people who are "meant to be together."
Well before there can even be a second chance with a good chance of success for a couple, I think a few things need to happen:
Sufficient time needs to have passed so that each person has completely let go of the relationship and any hopes or expectations attached to the relationship. And, that in that time each person has to have been able to work on him/herself- understanding and dealing with his/her own issues, and focusing on improving him/herself. I think that the odds would also be better if the first split was relatively amicable i.e. there were no lingering misunderstandings or hurt feelings. And of course, hopefully both sides would be ready and want the same things in the relationship the second time around.
As a love optimist I want to believe that this is possible. That as they say, there will be a second chance for people who are "meant to be together."
Well before there can even be a second chance with a good chance of success for a couple, I think a few things need to happen:
Sufficient time needs to have passed so that each person has completely let go of the relationship and any hopes or expectations attached to the relationship. And, that in that time each person has to have been able to work on him/herself- understanding and dealing with his/her own issues, and focusing on improving him/herself. I think that the odds would also be better if the first split was relatively amicable i.e. there were no lingering misunderstandings or hurt feelings. And of course, hopefully both sides would be ready and want the same things in the relationship the second time around.
Love Optimist
I guess I'm what you could call a "love optimist." I really, truly want to believe that if there is love, real love, that you can overcome everything, but as the saying goes... it takes two to tango. And there are so many things that go into a successful love equation- having the same priorities, ambition, values, lifestyle, goals, the right timing.
What happens if having love, being in love with each other was just not enough? If you love each other, but... compromises that must be made can't happen immediately, if one of the partners has issues that require a tremendous amount of work to work through , if a person knows that he/she is loved, but doesn't feel loved in the way her or she would like to be by the other...
When this happens it is always difficult and perplexing. You love each other but...
In my younger days, I was so idealistic about love, believing that if I loved someone enough and was committed enough to making it work, working through things- that it could work. Question is, is the situation _really_ a workable situation and is the other person just as committed, willing and/or able to do his part?
What happens if having love, being in love with each other was just not enough? If you love each other, but... compromises that must be made can't happen immediately, if one of the partners has issues that require a tremendous amount of work to work through , if a person knows that he/she is loved, but doesn't feel loved in the way her or she would like to be by the other...
When this happens it is always difficult and perplexing. You love each other but...
In my younger days, I was so idealistic about love, believing that if I loved someone enough and was committed enough to making it work, working through things- that it could work. Question is, is the situation _really_ a workable situation and is the other person just as committed, willing and/or able to do his part?
